Vaishnava Dealings: How to never be affected by the three fold miseries of the world

When Narada Muni sees Dhruva feeling insulted by the sharp words of his step mother, he instructs him in the aspect of tolerance and relationships in the following way:

1. SB 4.8.28: My dear Dhruva, if you feel that your sense of honor has been insulted, you still have no cause for dissatisfaction. This kind of dissatisfaction is another feature of the illusory energy; every living entity is controlled by his previous actions, and therefore there are different varieties of life for enjoying or suffering.
1. Purport 4.8.28: Nārada Ṛṣi first of all wanted to impress upon Dhruva Mahārāja that he was only a child; he should not have been affected by words of insult or honor. And if he were so developed as to understand honor and insult, then this understanding should have been applied in his own life. He should have known that honor and dishonor are both destined only by one’s previous actions; therefore one should not be sorry or happy under any circumstances.
2. Purport 4.8.27: Ordinarily if a child is rebuked as a rascal or fool, he smiles and does not take such insulting words very seriously. Similarly, if words of honor are offered, he does not appreciate them. But in the case of Dhruva Mahārāja, the kṣatriyaspirit was so strong that he could not tolerate a slight insult from his stepmother which injured his kṣatriya prestige.
2. Purport 4.8.29 Essence: 
1.  Everyone who is intelligent should know that because of our concept of bodily existence, we are subjected to suffering and enjoyment. One who is in the transcendental position, beyond the concept of bodily life, is considered to be intelligent.
3. SB 4.8.33: "One should try to keep himself satisfied in any condition of life — whether distress or happiness — which is offered by the supreme will. A person who endures in this way is able to cross over the darkness of nescience very easily."
1. Purport 4.8.33: Instead of being attached to the circumstantial happiness and distress resulting from pious or impious activities, if we want to get out of the clutches of this nescience, then whatever position we are put in by the will of the Lord we should accept. Thus if we simply surrender unto the Supreme Personality of Godhead, we shall get out of the clutches of this material existence.
4. SB 4.8.34: Every man should act like this: when he meets a person more qualified than himself, he should be very pleased; when he meets someone less qualified than himself, he should be compassionate toward him; and when he meets someone equal to himself, he should make friendship with him. In this way one is never affected by the threefold miseries of this material world.
1. Purport: Generally when we find someone more qualified than
   
   ourselves, we become envious of him; when we find someone less qualified, we deride him; and when we find someone equal we become very proud of our activities. These are the causes of all material tribulations. 
2. The great sage Nārada therefore advised that a devotee should act perfectly. Instead of being envious of a more qualified man, one should be jolly to receive him.
3.  Instead of being oppressive to a less qualified man, one should be compassionate toward him just to raise him to the proper standard.
4.  And when one meets an equal, instead of being proud of one’s own activities before him, one should treat him as a friend. 
5. One should also have compassion for the people in general, who are suffering due to forgetfulness of Kṛṣṇa. These important functions will make one happy within this material world.

Handling disagreements without resentment

Narada Muni had been instructing Maharaj Priyavrata in the details of renounced life. Lord Brahma instructs Maharaj Priyavrata to accept household life and responsibilities of ruling over the planet and give up the renounced order.

Narada Muni and Maharaj Priyavrata did not feel any resentment with this happening as they are not attached to their opinion. They were only attached to what is good for the service of the Lord and thus bore no resentment in their heart and offered due respect to Lord Brahma.They both saw Lord Brahma as their superior and as one who was carrying out the service of the Lord.

SB 5.1.21: Lord Brahmā was then worshiped by Manu, who respectfully satisfied him as well as he could. Priyavrata and Nārada also looked upon Brahmā with no tinges of resentment. Having engaged Priyavrata in accepting his father's request, Lord Brahmā returned to his abode, Satyaloka, which is indescribable by the endeavor of mundane mind or words.


To not feel resentment when being advised by two different authorities especially when one direction maybe different from the longing of our heart:

• When we are being guided by two different devotees , who are both representatives of the Lord our attitude should be to neglect neither of them and to use our intelligence to follow the advise of both. Apparently Maharaj Priyavrata was being inspired in different ways by Narada Muni and Lord Brahma. SP write in the purport to SB 5.1.12 that "Priyavrata should neglect neither of them but should use his intelligence to follow the advice of both".
  
• He then elaborates to explains "material affairs, should be accepted without attachment. and everything should be dovetailed with the service of the Lord."
• Thus our goal should be service in KC, if that is in place we will not have any resentment with following authority.
• Maharaj Priyavrata as an ideal disciple left his personal desires aside at the call of service.
  
• However if we do feel resentment, a thorough examination of our consciousness will reveal to us our attachments and that are services are still on the material platform.

To not have resentment when the person whom we are guiding is guided by another devotee with an apparently different instruction:

• This can be learned from Narada Muni's example.
• He did not feel any resentment in his heart as he saw Lord Brahma's instruction in line with service to the Lord.
• The instruction maybe apparently different but at the core it is in line with service to the Lord - the goal of all instructions.
  

Friendly Relationships between devotees pleases Krishna

Pleased by the austerities of the Pracetas (sons of King Pracinabarhi) Lord Vishnu appears before them in His eight handed form and blesses them.

Lord Vishnu speaks the verse SB 4.30.8 "My dear sons of the King, I am very much pleased by the friendly relationships among you. All of you are engaged in one occupation — devotional service. I am so pleased with your mutual friendship that I wish you all good fortune. Now you may ask a benediction of Me."

Notes:

1. The Lord is extremely pleased when He sees devotees cooperating in service to Krishna.
2. Disunity exists when DS is carried out on the bodily platform for the satisfaction of one's need for fame, prestige, envy,etc- that is in the mood of serving oneself and not Krishna.
3. Thus one must rise above material desires and keep questioning oneself " What is the purpose of doing this service. For whose pleasure?

Handling disagreements:

1. If there is some disagreement over service, such disagreement is to be taken as spiritual.
2. There is variegatedness in Krsna's creation and everyone will have their own way of serving the Lord.We should be able to perceive this and accept different viewpoints as the ultimate goal is to serve Krishna.
3. If we ourselves try to follow this mood and see someone else not doing the same, instead of looking down upon them we must be compassionate and encourage them to come to this platform through our love and care for them. We must refrain from being judgmental as that is detrimental to pleasing Krishna.
4. If we see someone not doing service correctly , instead of discouraging them we must help them improve their service by our love and care.
5. We must humbly meditate on how best we can serve the Lord and not find faults with one another.

We should learn somehow with the grace of guru and Krsna to rise above our petty frailties and unite for the right and only cause - devotional service.

The result is that Krishna will be extremely pleased and willing to award all kinds of benedictions on living beings